#1 Really think it through prior to asking
It’s easy to get over excited and start asking people to play a role in your big day the minute you’re engaged but you really want to have a good think about this before you do. After all once you’ve asked someone, you can’t really go back on it. A common mistake is to ask all your friends in the excitement and then suddenly realize how much weddings cost and that you now need to fork out on bridesmaid dresses, hair and make-up, shoes etc. Unless of course, they’re paying for themselves but even in that situation, you may decide to opt for a small intimate ceremony but you’ve already got 12 bridesmaids lined up. Whatever you do, have a good think before you ask anyone to be your bridesmaid.
#2 If you’re not sure … Don’t!
If you’re on the fence and not sure whether to ask someone to be your bridesmaid, don’t do it. You only want to ask people you could literally not get married without.
#3 Don’t ask them just because they asked you
Don’t ask someone you haven’t spoken to in years just because you feel like you need to return the favour. This will only end in regrets.
#4 Choose people who won’t let you down
You want to surround yourself with people you can count on. You’re going to be relying on them for responsible jobs they will need to take seriously such as looking after the rings, finalizing details with vendors and providing emotional support. You don’t want to be let down by people who can’t be bothered showing up or don’t have the time to give you.
#5 Set realistic expectations
When asking people to join your Bride Tribe, you need to be realistic on what’s expected of them before they accept. If you need them to meet up often or help you with making wedding centerpieces then it’s not a great idea to ask people who live further afield or have busy lifestyles.
#6 More isn’t always merrier
The more people you ask to join your bride tribe, the more opinions and debates you’ll have, not to mention more to confirm and finalize when it comes to planning the hen party.
#7 Include your siblings
Okay, so you may not feel close to them right now but they will always be your siblings and chances are, over time, you will become very close. To share these memories with your siblings is very special. Don’t let family feuds stand in the way.
#8 You don’t have to invite children
You don’t need to have a flower girl or page boy if you are not particularly close to any children. Don’t put yourself under pressure to have children helping you down the aisle.
#9 Let them play a part without the stress of it all
If you want all your friends to be part of your wedding but you’re not really keen on the stresses that come with it, have a look at other roles they could participate in such as, giving a reading at the ceremony, handing out programs or getting guests to sign the guestbook. There are plenty of alternative ways to include them in your big day.